Treating Spiritual lows

[Following are a few highlights from Shaykh Kamaluddin Ahmed db’s CII Tazkiya talk on 12th May 2011]

Right after a person sins, Allah swt can take him back in moments even that person who has been sinning for years only if he asks for the Mercy of Allah swt. So, our response when are in a spiritual low is to be humble, to be shamed, to feel need and dependence upon Allah swt – and if we do that – i.e. if a person throws themselves in sajdah at the mercy of Allah swt then there is great hope that Allah swt can forgive them and Allah swt can raise them out of that spiritual low. Sometimes a person makes a person commit a mistake that [after they sin, or are in a spiritual low, they don’t put themselves before Allah swt, but instead]  they first try other types of means [to come out of that spiritual low] for e.g. they’d think okay i’ll read something, or go online and listen to a lecture – I’m not saying reading books and listening to lectures online is not beneficial, they definitely are, – but at that particular time a person is not going to benefit merely from listening to a lecture online or reading a book and what happens is that a person will then say that i didn’t even feel like doing that or i listened to the lecture but it had no effect on my heart and so the person will get even more depressed. Now, this is Shaytan taking a person on a ride, keeps making a person think that they have to find the ability from within and inside of themselves to come out of sin and when they do all of those things that otherwise, normally, do increase their ability and they don’t have an effect on them – they become even more depressed. And they think that they have completely lost the ability to come [out of their sinful state], and they completely loose their ibadah.

So, know that in this situation a person has to throw themselves in sajdah, and make dua directly from Allah swt – yes, maybe listening to a talk may motivate them to do that, reading something may motivate them to do that, talking to someone may help them do that, something may push them drive them spur them to do that – but the only way to get out of a spiritual low and to get back on to a spiritual high is to lower ourselves before that being who is Al-mighty, return to Allah swt.

That is what we see in the duas of Sayyidina RasoolAllahi صلى الله عليه وسلم and the ambiya-e-karam ‘alaihimussalam, duas of Sahabah, Tabieen, Taba tabieen and the duas that we hear from our own Ullema and Mashaikh –  that many of their duas involve a person’s simply submitting themselves directly to Allah swt, presenting themselves directly before Allah swt

A person must have a direct relationship with Allah swt, and if a person neglects that or looses that then there is no replacement from that. Even the relationship with Shaykh is all about trying to connect a person to Allah swt, linking a person to Allah swt, restore that person’s link to Allah swt, re-motivate that person to connect to Allah swt – but at the end of the day, we must have a direct relationship with Allah swt. In other words, when you see all these different duas, the sincerity of the dua can be seen by how personal the duas were made to Allah swt – that  how much in the history of humanity, people have personally loved Allah swt, personally begged Allah swt, personally thrown themselves at the Mercy  of Allah swt, personally been shameful in front of Allah swt and thats really one of the big aspects of Tasawwuf – that by Dhikr and Rabta and Sohbah, – all of it is geared to help that person develop and maintain their personal relationship with Allah swt; their direct relationship with Allah swt.

And, whenever that becomes falls; or becomes weak, then there is no ability inside of ourselves to bring that back – because that relationship was a gift from Allah swt, was bestowed by Allah swt on us.

One of the greatest ways, we loose that personal relationship with Allah swt is, when we form personal relationships with other people outsides the bounds of Shariah – so, then what happens is that all the feelings that they were supposed to have for Allah swt, they start having them for a human being. This is a very very dangerous situation.

And this is something that it is so difficult for  a person to get out of, so difficult. Our Shaykh in his book, ‘Ishq-e-Ilaahi’ which has been translated as ‘Love for Allah swt’, he gave a beautiful example comparing what we call “Ishq-e-majazi and Ishq-e-haqiqi”

Ishq-e-Majazi – is the false love; fake love that we feel for ghairullah – a more fancy translation in English would be Metaphorical love.

Why is it called Majaz; Metaporical love?

It is called Metaphorical love because it seems to be like; it tries to take the place of; it tries to adopt the characteristics of Ishq-e-haqiqi which is the true love – which is the Love for Allah swt

In fact, I would say that – the more majaaz the ishq is, the more devastating it is. In other words, the more it resembles – seemingly; deceptively – love for  Allah swt, the more devastating and crippling it is!

What does it mean?

It means that a crude, lustful love for some member of creation, although it is definitely sinful; definitely problematic, definitely it is a physical sin – but my view is that the crude physical , lustful love is less harmful than ishq-e-majazi –

Ishq-e-majazi again means that a person feels emotionally for someone what they were supposed to emotionally feel for Allah swt. And what are those things?

For e.g. Feelings of longing, of yearning, of need

Our Shaykh has outlined these one by one and the Mashaikh of Tasawwuf used to outline these characteristics one by one – and they would even write about the poetry and even the Arabic poetry would reflect this that the feelings that a person was supposed to feel for Allah swt, people ended up feeling that for the opposite gender. I’m stressing this tonight because, many times the reason we are in a spiritual low is because of this. And it means that we have instead in our heart a direct personal relation for someone else, but we were supposed to have that direct, personal relationship with Allah swt. And the reason its so difficult is that its “Natural” ; this is what we feel, we feel its natural – we feel we are being honest and we honestly, naturally say that I’m feeling these feelings for this person but we don’t know what to do about it. Those were exactly the feelings we were supposed to feel for Allah swt!

I remember a few years ago, I read a quote by one of the earliar awliyah – this is not a prescription, but a description – in other words we’re not prescribing this particular behavior – but he was describing something and he said that, “That person who has suffered from ishq-e-majazi, only that person would truly understand ishq-e-haqiqi – in other words, that person who has extracted themselves out one by one by one from all of those feelings that we have for ghairullah and gave each and every one of them one by one to Allah swt instead – that person would reach Ishq-e-haqiqi.

Obviously, there is the other realm – the more pure and noble one which is that there are going to be people in this world who never felt that ishq-e-majazi – feeling of love – resembling- yearning, longing, missing, craving for ghairullah, they only felt that for Allah swt! that is obviously the ideal way. But, for those for whom it is too late; they have already gotten those feelings for somebody else – they have already fallen in that sense for somebody else – so its only when they are able to completely give up on those things that they will be able to find Allah  swt again.

So, this is one of the major reasons that we fall into spiritual low. And, it is one of the most difficult things for a person to get out of Ishq-e-majazi. And, this is why many times we tell people, that the only thing that can take us out of spiritual and emotional addiction is to get on a higher emotional addiction i.e. Allah swt; the only thing that can get us out of this particular spiritual low is to get connected to the spiritual high of Allah swt; the only way to take out this emotional heartache that we feel for ghairullah is if we can learn to feel emotional heartache for Allah swt – if we can learn to miss Allah swt, to yearn for Allah swt, to crave Allah swt to long for Allah swt – and that requires a direct personal relationship


–cont’d, iA

[Following are a few highlights from Shaykh Kamaluddin Ahmed db’s CII Tazkiya talk on 12th May 2011]

–cont’d, iA

[Following are a few highlights from Shaykh Kamaluddin Ahmed db’s CII Tazkiya talk on 12th May 2011]

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6 Responses to Treating Spiritual lows

  1. Rabia Iqbal says:

    i never knew about these posts…Its amazing…May Allah give Jaza to people who are keeping up with it. Its very helpful MashAllah. Please keep me posted via emails regarding future posts.

    Very glad to find it.
    Jazak Allah

  2. Umair Shafi Choksy says:

    Alhamdulillah this is the first time i read this its amazing

  3. Fahim says:

    kindly complete the lecture or post the link. I searched it on but could not find it. help me out pls. JazakAllah

  4. pearlinocean says:

    This is very beautiful. Jazakallah. 🙂

  5. Faiza Farooq says:

    i always kept thinking on this topic that why would we compare ishq-e-haqiqi to ishq-e-mjazi
    because according to me the love for Allah is the purest and highest thing. Then why would someone say that ishq-e-mjazi is the ladder to ishq-e-haqiqi now that my concepts are all clear i really thank you the person who posted 🙂

  6. Asna says:

    Where is the other part??

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